If you have been asked to write a eulogy for a loved one's funeral, it can be a daunting task. However, this is something wonderful you can do for your loved one who passed. Here are some tips that will help you organize and write a memorable eulogy.
Share a Single Story or Memory
A eulogy should not fill up 10 pages when you write it all down and shouldn't take up half the funeral service. It is meant to be a brief speech about the person who has passed. One good way to keep it short is by sharing just one memory or story about the person who has died. Choose a memory that means something to you or that showed how much of an impact this person made on your life. Their close family will enjoy hearing about how the deceased helped you find the motivation you needed to better your life, instead of a dozen smaller and less meaningful stories.
Avoid Being Too Vague
When writing the eulogy, avoid being too vague. This is a common mistake people make because they feel like listing facts about the person is necessary. Everyone at the funeral service knew and loved this person, so it is okay to be personal. In fact, most people prefer hearing a personal eulogy because it means more to them. Don't be afraid to share intimate details about the person that most people don't know, such as talking about their favorite movie or hobby. Perhaps your uncle was not known for being into music, but you can share memories of the times when he introduced you to the Beatles. Whatever it is, don't be afraid to be personal.
Delivering a eulogy is an emotional experience, but that doesn't mean yours has to be depressing. You will not be judged by remaining optimistic and sharing the food qualities of the deceased, instead of the bad. People close to them already know about their flaws, and their loved ones don't want to be reminded. Instead, share positive things about their life, whether you share how much they loved their children, how hard they worked, or about the time they volunteered at a soup kitchen on Thanksgiving. Never share information that could be hurtful to others.
Bring a Written Copy With You
When you are writing the eulogy, make sure you have several copies of the final speech. Keep one with you and give one to someone else who will be at the funeral home service just in case you lose yours or leave your coat in the car. Not only is this helpful if you lose yours, but in case you are feeling too emotional to stand in front of the church and deliver the eulogy. Even if you think you can memorize it, it is still good to have a written copy of the eulogy.Share